Etiquette: So, who can throw a baby shower for the Mom-to-be? Herself?
Traditionally, friends of a mother-to-be throw her a baby shower, sometimes as a surprise, sometimes with her knowledge. That is the way it has always been. The friends show their support by throwing a baby shower and giving her gifts that she will need for the baby and advice that they think will come in handy once the baby comes. They plan all kinds of decorations, a cake, and even games. Usually that is how it is done but now we have a question to answer. Can the soon to be mom plan her own shower?
Why not? A pregnant woman should get to choose to plan her own shower if that is what she wants to do. Some women don’t like the baby shower games or like specific foods or know what gifts they will need. Some strong women would prefer to be in control of the celebration of her pregnancy and there is nothing wrong with that at all.
If you are one of these women the first thing you want to do is tell your friends that you plan to throw your own shower right after telling them that you are pregnant so that they don’t waste any effort on planning. You will also want to make a list of things that you know you need, a registry really, and keep that in the hands of one friend. Every one invited will call her and say what they intend to buy you so that you don’t get 10 of the same thing.
Another option, considering that you are pregnant after all, is to make a list of everything you want at the shower and ask your friends or relatives, family to volunteer for tasks. This way you are not the one carrying the cake or going all over for decorations and food. You get to have everything that you want without having to do all of the work. Make sure that invitations are sent out in a timely manner when you have picked a date so everyone can clear their schedules. You can have it catered by your favorite place or ask that everyone bring a dish.
With you picking everything out you can make it your perfect shower. After all it is about you. When it comes to the cake you can either pick it out yourself or have a friend surprise you. You can tell them what kind of cake you want and what filling and frosting but be surprised when you see the shape or what is on it because some are pretty elaborate.
Planning your own baby shower is the perfect way to ensure that you don’t spend all day with people you didn’t want to invite, eating food you don’t like and playing games that annoy you. You get everything how you want it and you won’t get things you already bought or that everyone else got you. Besides, you’re pregnant, what are the chances that anyone will really fight you on the issue, with the exception of your mother of course :P