8 Must Know Baby Shower Etiquettes

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8 Must Know Baby Shower Etiquettes covering:

  • Can Mom-To-Be Throw Her own Baby Shower
  • When & How to Give Out Baby Shower Favors
  • Inviting Men to Baby Showers
  • Baby Shower Food & Drinks
  • Baby Shower for The Second Baby
  • Should Gifts be Opened at a Baby Shower?
  • Who to Invite to a Baby Shower 
  • Is Alcohol Allowed at Baby Shower Party?

Etiquette 1: Can a Mom-To-Be Throw Her own Baby Shower?

Traditionally, friends of a mother-to-be throw her a baby shower, sometimes as a surprise baby shower, sometimes with her knowledge. That is the way it has always been. The friends show their support by throwing a baby shower and giving her gifts that she will need for the baby and advice that they think will come in handy once the baby comes. They plan all kinds of decorations, a cake, and even baby shower games. Usually that is how it is done but now we have a question to answer. Can the soon to be mom plan her own shower?

Why not? A pregnant woman should get to choose to plan her own shower if that is what she wants to do. Some women don’t like the baby shower games or like specific foods or know what gifts they will need. Some women would prefer to be in control of the celebration of her pregnancy and there is nothing wrong with that at all.

If you are one of these women, the first thing you want to do is tell your friends that you plan to throw your own shower right after telling them that you are pregnant so that they don’t waste any effort on planning. You will also want to make a list of things that you know you need, a registry really, and keep that in the hands of one friend. Every one invited will call her and say what they intend to buy you so that you don’t get 10 of the same thing.

Another option, considering that you are pregnant after all, is to make a list of everything you want at the shower and ask your friends or relatives, family to volunteer for tasks. This way you are not the one carrying the cake or going all over for decorations and food. You get to have everything that you want without having to do all of the work. Make sure that baby shower invitations are sent out in a timely manner when you have picked a date so everyone can clear their schedules. You can have it catered by your favorite place or ask that everyone bring a dish.

With you picking everything out you can make it your perfect shower. After all it is about you. When it comes to the cake you can either pick it out yourself or have a friend surprise you. You can tell them what kind of cake you want and what filling and frosting but be surprised when you see the shape or what is on it because some are pretty elaborate.

Planning your own baby shower is the perfect way to ensure that you don’t spend all day with people you didn’t want to invite, eating food you don’t like and playing games that annoy you. You get everything how you want it and you won’t get things you already bought or that everyone else got you. Besides, you’re pregnant, what are the chances that anyone will really fight you on the issue, with the exception of your mother of course :P

Etiquette 2: When & How to Give Out Baby Shower Favors?

Baby showers favors are do it yourself gifts, at least half of the process, created by the host of the baby shower and given out to guests as a thank you for attending. Usually these favors are meant to be a surprise but the gesture is so popular that the moment and the way of giving baby shower favor became more surprising than the favor itself. It depends on what you visualize as a creative gift and how you manage to make a memorable moment out of it.

At the beginning of the baby shower

A good moment to surprise you guests with a baby shower favor it’s right at the beginning of the party as a welcome gift. You can wait for every guest with a welcome drink in a personalized glass which of course they can keep as a memory. You can either place a baby tag with the name if it’s already known or you can write simply “it’s a boy/girl” or date of shower if parents still don’t know baby’s gender. You can even make it more personal by having a cute plastic pacifier swimming in the glass. What a fun way of starting the party.

Another warm welcome that would surprise your guests is to create personalized baby shower cones and hand them out as the guests enter. Write their names on each one of them and you’ll certainly be laughing at the table

In the middle of the baby shower

The best moment of giving baby shower favors is right in the middle of the party. Think about fun activities & games through which guests can earn their baby shower favors. You can craft different prizes for winners but keep it to the same subject area so you don’t risk any further discussions. You can craft for winners a beauty pack of home made soaps, body cream or shower creams, whereas for a consolation prize you can pick some scented candles. Not only you’ll have fun playing the games but you will also have the chance to see some people really enjoying their time. When sitting at the table for eating, place some fortune cookies in the salad bowl for example. Guests will be even more surprised if you personalize the notes but then you will have to place the fortune cookie on each plate and carefully guide guests to their seat. Think about each guest and what defines his/her personality and compose a funny sentence for a special treatment.

When the cake comes

Entertain a double surprise and give your baby shower favors after the cake is served. You will surprise parents to be with a marvelous cake and guests will also feel included when receiving a personalized gift. You can match your favors with the theme of cake so if it’s an animal shape, craft some stuffed animals as favor gifts or make some cookies wrapped in cellophane bags with a pretty ribbon.

At the end of the baby shower

A little tease doesn’t hurt anyone so keep your guests on fire and handle their favors only before leaving the party. What you choose to give them is your decision. You can prepare some delicious cupcakes, crafted napkin or cloth diapers filled with candies or any other containers that you can personalize. Whatever baby shower favor you choose will fill your guests with joy and gratitude. You can choose anything you want with only one condition, craft them yourself it’s more personal and inspiring!

Etiquette 3: Inviting Men to Baby Showers

For as far back as anyone can remember, the rule for a baby shower have been ladies only. Partly because men didn’t consider it a manly thing to do, going to an event where ladies all talk about baby birth, delivery stories and all of that feminine stuff and maybe because women thought that if she is going to have to give birth, she deserves something for the trouble and a little fun before she is up all night to breast feed.

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Things are different now. We have breast pumps and formula so that both parents can take turns getting up every four hours. Nowadays most parents share responsibilities, it is no longer a time when every women spends all her time trying to get pregnant and cooking meals, doing all of the chores and waiting for her husband to bring home the bacon. Women earn just as much or more than their husbands, chores are divided and couples are equals. Baby showers can be enjoyed by men with so many fun activities and delicious food.

Ultimately, the decision is up to the honoree.  Planning a co-ed baby shower is very common now especially if she wants the father and husband there to celebrate, and the more people you invite the more gifts you will get, so keep that in mind! Just make sure that if you are going to invite everyone, men and women, you may want to avoid making it a totally girly experience. They will feel more comfortable if it is like any regular parties and less like a traditional baby shower. You DO want everyone to have fun and acknowledge that soon you will have a new addition to the family.

Another idea is that if you do want to keep it traditional but feel that the guys deserve to celebrate too, have two parties. There is such thing as Daddy Shower in this modern world! One can be an all-out mommy and girlfriends only traditional baby shower with all your friends and both grandmothers to be telling their birth stories and saying all kinds of things that would make men uncomfortable. The other party can either be in another part of the house or at a restaurant that allows party venues. The daddy to be can invite all of his friends and both of your fathers and have a guy party where they have some drinks, talk about the changes pregnancy has brought forth and all of the changes a baby will bring. His friends who have kids can share their stories too.

Time has changed, yet some people believe that there are certain things that should stay the same. Whichever kind of baby celebration you choose will be great, and everyone else can have their opinion of what it should be, but this is up to you and the mommy-to-be, you should be the ones calling the shots when it comes to how that is celebrated no matter what other people think of your choice.

Etiquette 4: Baby Shower Food & Drinks

There’s no special recipe for a baby shower food and drinks menu. It usually depends on the audience and who is going to participate. Another aspect to consider is when the baby shower is taking place. Is it a warm afternoon, a lovely sunset or a light dinner? Based upon the previous factors, here are some menu tips.

When speaking about food, think about the whole room full of guests. Are there only females? Or can you see some gentlemen, children, maybe old relatives? If it’s a mixed audience, then the food menu will be totally different from an all-female party for example.

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1) Appetizers & Finger food

When having a girl party, it’s nice to choose some fresh appetizers or finger food. Tease the atmosphere with some carrot zucchini bars or small triangle cucumber sandwiches, next to a red-green bouquet of pepper dips and fried mozzarella bocconcini. On the other hand, a mixed audience including men and children may need a small addition of proteins, so go for some delicious saucy Asian meatballs or bacon and cream cheese stuffed mushrooms. For more consistency, you can add some broccoli and cheddar twice-baked potatoes and a cheesy “pull apart” bread. Here are some very cute ideas I came across.

2) Main course

This particular course is not necessary if you’re organizing an afternoon baby shower. However, if the party is extending beyond that, or will be held in the evening, then it will be mandatory to add a warm plate to your menu. There is no need to be overly sophisticated, just choose a soft warm dish like grill eggplant with tomatoes and cheese. If dealing with a mixed audience, you can serve spaghetti or pasta which is the most popular modern dish for a baby shower, plus it is also filling and easy to eat, so your guests will be satisfied. For a light late dinner, surprise your audience with a casserole of white cheddar and Parmesan cheese. It’s delicious and it melts in your mouth! Lemon chicken and baked mashed potatoes are also a nice idea for a late course.

3) Dessert

Don’t limit yourself to only a cake, there are so many recipe ideas for dessert it would be a pity not to try them! Starting from cupcakes, to pink or blue popcorn, cookies, cake pops, jelly or the classic brownies. Gather them all and think about a nice decorated scenery. At the end it will be hard to resist them!

Baby Shower Drinks

A subject of discussion is whether to serve alcohol at a baby shower or not. In the end, it’s about personal decisions but nonalcoholic baby showers have disappeared slowly. As a courtesy, it is always good to ask the mom-to-be and reassure her that there will be other delicious drinks for her to enjoy such as fun fruity alcohol-free-punch made from blueberry or raspberry flavored drink. You could also have another one with alcohol for the guests.

Many years ago, a baby shower was something rather girly, but today, baby showers are more couple orientated, getting closer to a private party with baby-themed gifts, with food and drinks of all sorts.

1) Female drinks

Needless to say, the expectant mommy will not be partaking in alcoholic drinks so the rest of female guests have the possibility to choose between virgin or alcoholic cocktails. If you have your own bar, buy ingredients for basic cocktails so if there’s a boy, you can easily prepare a blue swimming pool or a raspberry cocktail if it’s a baby girl. White wine combined with club soda is another solution for the ladies.

2) Male drinks

The most easily to handle! For a casual baby shower, you can always welcome a man with a beer, but since it’s a special occasion it’s better to spoil the men too. So pick an elegant bottle of whiskey or try vodka based cocktails. A good old red wine is also to be taken into consideration. Just think about what would make them comfortable.

3) Children drinks

Raspberry lemonade or pink grapefruit lemonade are the most popular drinks for children. Strawberry milk may also suit the theme very well. Little girls will be enchanted.

Don’t overload the menu, think about fresh, consistent ingredients and visually appealing recipes which will flatter the guests, feeling comfortable at the table.

Etiquette 5: Baby Shower for The Second Baby

Baby showers are great! For the first born, it seems exciting, new and fun to plan! Although when the second baby is coming, it seems hard to plan another baby shower and sometimes it doesn’t seem like there’s a point. You already have clothes and toys from the last baby, but that’s not the point! The point of a baby shower is to celebrate this new baby and welcome he or she with love and open arms!

Traditionally, baby showers were held only for the first born child. Nowadays more and more people are having baby shower for their second child. The only problem is that after the first baby, it seems that there are no original ideas left. You went all out for the first baby when you were planning the shower, but now that baby number two is on its way it seems almost impossible to come up with something new and exciting. 

The second baby shower is just as important as the first born’s baby shower because all the children should be treated the same. Also, clothes and other things used by the first baby can be given to other friends and families as hand-me-downs. A second baby is a great way to acquire other things that are needed for both babies as well. 

Whether trying to make your baby shower party fresh or unique with plenty of activities, there are so many new ideas out there. For example, you can have a craft party and have everyone make the baby a homemade gift. Once your baby grows up, he or she will realizes how much love he or she has from all of these crafts that friends and family have made them.

What is Baby Sprinkle?

If you want to plan a less scaled down baby shower for the second baby, you can have a baby sprinkle which is just like a baby shower but less elaborate and therefore making it perfect for second (or three child). The gifts are typically diapers, wipes and some clothes. Baby Sprinkle is a theme in itself using lots of sprinkle and confetti decorations.

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Brother or Sister-to-be Shower?

Since this is for a second child, you can have their big brother or big sister around for the baby shower. Even have it called, brother-to-be or sister-to-be shower. You’ll want them to adjust having a new baby around, and the baby shower is the perfect place for them to be. They can be an active part of the baby shower and can be the first outing. Also, so the first born doesn’t feel left out, you can have your guests give gifts to them as well. It’s a great way to celebrate the child you have now and the child you will have in the future.

Also, the guests for the second baby shower will also give gifts to the parents-to-be because they could use the items for the first baby for the new baby. A second baby shower is a great excuse to bond with friends and family members.

After all the stress from the first baby, a great way to throw a baby shower is an open house baby shower. This removes the problems of forgetting to invite people and removes the stress so that the mother-to-be and all the guests can have fun and come and go as they please.

Baby showers don’t have to be stressful or even boring! Make your second one even better!

Etiquette 6:  Should Gifts be Opened at a Baby Shower?

The question of whether or not to open gifts at the baby shower does not, in my opinion, have a right or wrong answer. But to answer the question, yes they should be opened. The whole point of throwing a baby shower for the mother-to-be is help her celebrate the upcoming birth of her child, as well as to provide her with some of the baby supplies she will need when her precious bundle is taken home from the hospital. The only exception is when money is given directly to mom-to-be. Although opening gift cards are okay, they should not be passed around nor the amount be disclosed.

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Even though guest play baby shower games and have fun visiting together, it’s hard to get past the idea that the opening of gifts is the highlight of the shower. For the mother-to-be, the gift opening is an exciting time that ranks right up there with Christmas morning. Playing games could be during the gift opening could be a good strategy for your baby shower. One game that is a perfect baby shower idea for when gifts are being opened is to pass out clothespins to each of the guests. The guests clip a clothespin to the hem of her skirt or blouse. While the expectant mom is opening her gift, the guest must refrain from crossing their legs. If someone crosses her legs, another guest grabs the clothespin and pins it next to her clothespin. When all of the gifts have been opened, the woman with the most clothespins wins a prize.

I honestly cannot imagine having a baby shower without the opening of gifts unless it is a specialized shower where guest bring only certain items, like diapers and wipes. In that case, wrapping the gifts would be less exciting because everyone already knows what the package contains.

There are so many opinions out there, but what should really matter is the question of what the mother-to-be prefers. If you are brainstorming about what etiquette you should follow and decide that you do not want the mother-to-be to open gifts at the party, why not just have a baby shower tea where people bring gifts and everyone plays games and visits. Afterwards the guests could take the gifts to the car before they leave.

But, I say again, where is the fun in that? If you are against gift-giving at the baby shower, there is nothing wrong with that, but taking out the gift giving part of the shower, in my humble opinion is cutting out the most exciting part of the whole shower. Most people love to watch the gifts being opened and especially love to watch the expression expectant mom’s face when their gift is being opened. Passing around the open gifts for everyone to hold and see brings out the “oohs” and “aahs” in appreciation of the beautiful gift that has been given.
If the shower is in progress and the mother-to-be seems extremely tired, then, by all means, omit the gift giving, for her health is more important that watching gifts being opened.

Whatever your opinion of gift opening, celebrate with the guest of honor!

Etiquette 7: Who to Invite to a Baby Shower 

Who to Invite to a Baby Shower – The Things You Need to Know

Traditionally, baby shower is an all female event, but nowadays, some women prefer to invite their partners as well, and it is the best way for the dad-to-be to feel more involved. There are things that you need to consider when determining who to invite to a baby shower. Some of which includes:

• Mom-to-be list of guests
• The events budget and plan
• The type of the baby shower

Make sure that it is clearly stated on the invitations whether the event will be an all female party, or if men, kids and babies can come.

Types of Baby Shower:

Topping your list of guests are mom-to-be’s close friends, relatives and co-workers. The primary objective of having a baby shower is to shower the soon to be parents with love and support by joining them in the event and bringing along gifts that is useful for the parents.

Couple baby showers are becoming popular. Both the dad and mom-to-be can join the event with family and friends. Men are starting to love the idea that they can attend baby showers and plays an essential role in the pregnancy. Make sure that you plan the baby shower party properly in case you will be hosting a couples shower. Prepare the favors and games, make it something interesting not only for women but for men as well.

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The surprise baby shower is another fun type of baby shower. Preparing the guest list is a little bit difficult to compile since you cannot ask the mother-to-be. In this kind of situation, you can ask some of her co-workers and relatives to create a list for you. Just don’t forget to take note on the invitations that the event is a surprise.

In compiling the guest list, gather all the essential information needed for sending invitations. List down the guest’s name, phone number, email address, and address. The more details you get the better.

The Ideal Number of Friends that you can Invite

Just like any other parties, there are no rules regarding the guest list, however, the type of baby shower will be dictated by the number of guests that you will invite. The types of games you can play and catering will depend on the number of guests that you will invite. Basically, baby shower is an intimate event where your relatives and friends can meet and associate so keep your guest list as short as possible.

Etiquette 8: Is Alcohol Allowed at Baby Shower?

The secret  to a successful baby shower depends on proper planning and making the right decision. Starting from the invitations to the motifs and designs,  there are lots of things that you need to think about and the types of drinks that you will serve is one of them. Maybe you are thinking of including alcohol in the list of drinks that you will serve during the party. The question is, is alcohol allowed at a baby shower? The answer is yes, but only at a minimal amount and it depends on the host of the event.

 

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The common type of drinks that you will find in a baby shower party are lemonade, coffee, iced tea and water. If you prefer to have those four drinks only, then you are set. There is nothing wrong with keeping the event easy and simple. Aside from those four drinks, you can serve several choices of drinks to make everyone happy. There are things that you need to remember, you need to serve lots of ice, sliced lemons, machine to keep the coffee warm and cream and sugar for the iced tea and coffee.

Things to Keep in Mind if you allow Alcohol in the Baby Shower Party

Having a little alcohol at a baby shower party is not bad at all, however if you are inviting guests to have a drink, you need to be very careful in serving it. Keep in mind that the event is for mom-to-be so therefore you need to keep the drinks to a minimum. You could possibly think about serving an attractive baby shower fruit punch with fruits mom-to-be likes. There are easy pink or blue punch recipes around.

For others, a party is not the same without a welcome glass of wine to start the event. This will also add some spice to the baby shower antics. This could be possible but too many drinks might ruin the event. You can serve wine to toast for the coming of the new member of the family, with a bottle of champagne as a reserve.

Preparing the Drinks for the Baby Shower Party

Dressing up the drinks is easy, just add some garnishments. If you prefer to have water bottles, you can personalize it by adding some cute baby shower decorations. To make the pitcher look attractive you can dress up the tables and even the pitchers using fancy cups or straws.
Since wine is considered as a celebratory beverage, serving it at a baby shower is acceptable. How you display the drinks being served during the baby shower event is another factor. The way you decorate the drink table can have a big effect on the overall look of the shower.