For Friends Planning a Surprise Baby Shower
The first thing you should do is talk to the dad-to-be. He may know what dates she is free and be able to make sure she is free on the date you choose. Also he will probably be the one to take her out of the house while you decorate, so be sure to run everything by him. Also, ask him for a list of things that they need for the baby which they have not got yet. This will act as a registry of sort so that they don’t get all of the same things over and over. Have one person in charge of the list and before buying the shower gift ask them to call you so you can check it off the list and if someone else already got them, you could offer suggestions.
Next, send out invitations clearly stating that it is a surprise so that nobody talks to the mom-to-be about it. Also, it is a good idea if you have a group of friends planning the shower, to give everyone specific tasks, who gets the cake, buys the banner, the balloons and so on. This way everyone knows what to do and you are not scrambling the day of. Anything you can get early you should so that the cake and balloons are the only things you have to pick up on the day of the shower. Also you should have an actual check list. All the friends involved in planning come up with a list of things that need to be done and as each task is completed you check it off. This will ensure that nothing can be overlooked or forgotten.
For Friends Planning with the Mom-to-Be’s knowledge
You should talk to her, ask her questions about what she wants and does not want at the shower. It might be an idea to mention to her about the kind of games you would be playing as well just to make sure she feels comfortable at her own shower. So, especially since she is pregnant, no matter how well you know her you have to talk about food. She is likely to have certain foods she can’t be around and others she can’t get enough of. This is all about her so ask what she wants, cake or cupcakes, what kind of cake, what she wants on the cake, what theme if any, and everything else. There may be certain things she wants it to be up to you but knowing what she wants will be helpful.
Although the party isn’t a surprise, the gifts are, so still do the registry through either parents. You can let her tell you what she needs the most or to have the gifts be more of a surprise you can ask him. Make sure that if there are any duplicates that they are only the things you always need more of like diapers, bibs, towels, and clothes in all sizes because baby grow very fast! You are still going to want to send out the invites early typically 4 weeks prior. Also the task assignments and checklist still apply. You don’t want to miss anything.